How to make your Life Beautiful? Here isThe Secret

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Life is full of events. It also has comfortable as well as challenging situations. Life also has moments worry and concern, good and bad times, ups and downs and so on… if we are a person balanced both in thoughts and actions, we will be able to get over any situations in our life. and if we are not, then we will accept all good things in our life and try to avoid / dislike all bad things in our life , including any challenges that may come across in our life; it could be physical mental or financial. Fun loving people always enjoy the better side of their life. and they mostly try to avoid such challenging situations.

Our attitude is everything, it can make our life heaven or hell. There is a lot of difference in our attitude , as an individual and as a family man. As long as we are an individual, we generally don’t have to bother about anything/ anyone. Just live our life and we are answerable to none. and we accept everything that comes in our way – good or bad – because here we cannot blame anyone.

Where as when we become a family person, means getting married and settled in life, then our ‘Attitude has many definitions. We come under a ‘frame work’ within which we have to fit in ourselves. other members in this framework are ‘our own family’. And everyone has certain responsibilities to make our family life happy and beautiful. And if u are the head of the family, then obviously u will have more.

It is here, in our family life that each one of us will have to make some adjustments, forgo some comforts, even make some sacrifices – all for our family.

MDIR_reletionship_post 2We all know famous Issac Newton’s law of gravity, ‘For every action there will be an equal and opposite reaction’. So, it is our actions that call for a suitable reaction. and at times, without analysing our own action, we tend to critisise the opposite reaction and we land up in arguments and situation goes out of control.

And over a period, when the overall situation becomes unbearable, some of us often get frustrated and instead of taking actions to reslove the issues to set the things in order, often try to find an easy way out, with out realising the fact , i am part of this family and I have equal responsibility to set the thing straight.

Often we think about such easy way out is because, we think if i get out of here I can be more happy and live my own way etc … But often we realise, when reach on the other side, though initially thinks may be ok but soon we find the situation becomes worse than the earlier situation.

There are many things we can share on this subject. That is not my aim. It’s our life experience and life exposure that made me to share these few points.


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All about Relationship – Relationship between Married Couples

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mdirWP.pic13Relationship is a very delicate and sensitive topic; because, it changes its character depending on the people involved in it – say between husband and wife, between parents and their children, between the siblings, between friends, between colleagues, and so on. And how such a relationship can affect you and your family and how your relationship can make your life more beautiful.

At the outset we must remember the fact, it is our attitude towards life and work that makes our life 100%!!! Attitude is everything. You change your attitude and we change your life! Attitude can affect your relationship, very badly at times, making your life into a big zero.

mdirWPpic.6Relationship between married couples:

It is very important to understand the life style married couple live in the present scenario. So, before we discuss further, you must realise various situations they are in, like –

  1. They must be newly married: There is a tendency to share their past life. In a way it might help to understand each other. But it can also have some adverse effects. So, do it only after you fully understand your spouse.
  1. Very much interested/ interested / least interested in physical / sexual relationship: A good physical relationship is the back bone of a happy married life. It is quite natural to enjoy sexual life after marriage. Nowhere it is written that you should have sex only once a day/ week/ month etc. It’s all up to the couple to enjoy their sex considering their health, time / space available. It will be ideal if they can work out a common interest and plan their sexual life. Another point, it is quite possible to watch porn videos and try those actions in your own life. This is not advisable unless agreed to by both.
  1. Husband well educated, wife well educated/ both are well educated: Knowledge is wealth. It will help you to get a better job and get respect from others. You can also help and guide your children.
  1. Only husband working, both husband and wife working: Generally you find husband works and he is the earning member of the family. But now a days, in order to live a comfortable life you find both husband and wife working. With this, housekeeping/ managing the house/ children becomes little difficult. Under such circumstances, both the husband and wife should share the responsibilities based of their work schedule and other commitments. And if required, additional arrangements should be done by appointing suitable servants etc.
  1. Husband earning more salary/ wife earning more salary/ both earning good salary: It is quite natural that salary is paid according to the Company policy, the post you hold and also the career prospects of that company. Actually, there should not be any argument like I am earning more than you so I have every right to take decisions in my family or something like that.  The thought process should be, we both are earning for our family. Let’s work out a proper finance planning for our family, so that we can save for the education of our children and for our retirement age.
  1. Husband n wife working in the same organization: It has both plus/ minus points. It can save you a lot of expenses for travelling. But you both r working on a different shit altogether, it has negative points.  Further, working together in the same company, if the company lay off or some employees’ strength reduction, then you both will be effected and thus it will affect your family income. Ideally, it would be advisable not to work in the same company.
  1. Husband holding a senior post/ wife holding a senior post than her husband: There is no problem due to this to others. But if wife is holding a senior post  compared to her husband, then wife should not try to put her supremacy in the house saying that she is holding a senior post.
  1. Husband is older than his wife by a few years/ husband and wife are almost of the same age/ couples having/ not having their own children:  This is a very delicate issue between the married couple. Husband may insist on an early child whereas wife wanted a child after a couple of years. Or may be tried their best but didn’t succeed. Or even after a few years, they didn’t have a child, may due to, wife/ husband refusing to have sex or may be on some health grounds they cannot have any children. All these situations can create turbulence in their relationship and will bring in frustration in their minds and it will affect their married life. Never give up hope. Miracle can happen any time.
  1. Both husband and wife are healthy/ one of them has some ailments: Everyone wants to remain healthy. A healthy mind in a healthy body will help you the make your dreams into a reality. But, as the saying goes, ‘Man proposes and God disposes’.  We find quite unexpected things happen in your life, like accidents, ailments and so on. When this occur, you often get disappointed and frustrated and you lose your hopes. The thought process says, let’s hope nothing of that sort happens in your life. And if at all something happens, face it with courage and face the challenges and move forward.
  1. Both or one of them is ‘nagging’: This is something generally husbands/ wives don’t like – a nagging wife / a nagging husband. So try and avoid being a nagging wife or a nagging husband.
  1. Husband and wife belong the same religion/ husband and wife belong to different religions: Often we hear people saying, ‘It was love at first sight and soon they got married.’ If both are from the same religion, then there is no problem. If you believe in religion and if they belong to different religion then either they should follow same religion or allow to follow each others’religion.
  1. Tendency for controlling husband/ wife: Some men/women want to control their husbands’/ wife’s activities, which mostly no one will like. So it would be better to avoid such an attempt, which will only spoil your relationship.
  1. Mutual Sharing: Mutual sharing is the best way to build up a strong relationship. Maintain a good transparency of your life activities. This will help you to build up mutual trust.

mdirWPpic.7Common Factors: However, there are certain common factors that are applicable for building up a strong relationship between the married couples – mutual trust, mutual respect, mutual support, taking initiative, understanding each other (each other’s strengths and weakness, likes and dislikes, positive/ negative qualities, a will to learn and a will to work), keeping the family secrets within the family and not sharing them with your friends/ relatives, unless otherwise required.

These common factors really contribute a lot in making your relationship very cordial/ healthy and enjoyable. And remember, whatever be the situation, your attitude towards life can make your life a HEAVEN or a HELL.


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Realizing My Dream – after 10 long years – A Real Life Story

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inspiringimages5It’s about myself, Maj. George Maliakal (retd.). I wish to share my real life story about, ‘How I could realize my childhood dream of becoming an Engineer, which changed my life altogether.

I was born in a lower middle class family way back in 1945. And I was the sixth child of parents. My father believed in educating his children. I still remember his words. He used to always remind us “Look children, you know we are not rich, but I can help you to become rich. You must study well and you can study as much you want. Because, only education can give you a bright future. And remember, ‘Knowledge is the biggest wealth in this world, which no one can ever take away from you. So study well.’ “

OG-05 - CopyMy Childhood Dream: His inspiring words helped me to dream about my future – ‘To become an Engineer’. But studying for engineering was quite expensive and we had no means to afford. So I decided to study well. So that I could score high marks in my Pre University Course (PUC) exams and get a merit seat at the engineering/ medical entrance selection. And I really worked hard for my PUC exams 1962. Just a few days before my PUC exam I was down with high fever. I became worried and tensed fearing whether I would be able to write my exams.

High fever was only the beginning of another deadly disease, ‘Chicken Pox’. But I didn’t give up. I was totally bed ridden at home. Since it was in the beginning stage, my father encouraged me to go and write my exams with my shirt sleeves fully rolled down, so that others could not make out anything.

There were eight exams total for PUC. Exams started. And I went to write my exams with my shirt sleeves rolled down. I didn’t mingle with my friend/ other students and without creating any suspicion, I continued to go and wrote my exams. But I afraid. If somebody come to know and reported the matter I would not be allowed to write my exams. And in that case I would have lost one year, which I hated.

In spite of medication, my health was worsening day by day. My condition had deteriorated so much that I could not go to write my last and final exam. I knew I will fail in my PUC exam.  I was totally disappointed thinking that I cannot become an engineer in my life.  But as per the prevailing rules, even if you miss one elective subject, if you had pass marks (totaling marks of the other seven papers), the exam board will declare you as passed the PUC exam. Thus I passed my PUC exams. But I had very poor marks, obviously, I had not written one exam. And thus I could not get a merit seat.  Now I had no other choice but to join a three year Bachelor Degree Course in Mathematics.

OG-16 - CopyMy Dream Profession: I always had a dream about my profession after completing my studies. And that too on my merits and without any kind of recommendations. Finally after my degree course, in 1967 I got my dream profession; I joined as a Short Service Commissioned Officer (SSC) in the Corps of Engineers of the Indian Army – which is the top category of Government professions in our country, India. I was very happy. It was a dream realized for me.

As per the terms and conditions on the service, I had to serve for a period of five years. Based on my annual performance report during the fifth year, I would be given an option either to accept Permanent Commission in the Army or to retire from my Short Service.

I was lucky, I was given an option to accept Permanent Commission in the Army. In fact that’s what I wanted. Without wasting any time I accepted the offer. And I was granted Permanent Commission in the Corps of Engineers.

The most surprising thing was, immediately I was granted Permanent Commission, I was sent to the College of Military Engineering (CME) Pune to do the Engineer Officers Degree Course in May 1973. Since I was already a science graduate, it was a three year engineering degree course, from May 1973 to May 1976.

I was again a student, now, an engineering student, after a long gap of 10 years of my college days. By now I had already married my ‘Dream Girl’ and had one child, daughter. Now when I look back, my three years life at CME was like a dream to me. Doing engineering degree course after my marriage and a wonderful stay at CME, I was drawing my full monthly salary all through the degree course and I was just an engineering student.

EODC36-1 - CopyOur Convocation was In May 1976. I received my Engineering Degree Certificate from the Excellency the Vice Chancellor of Jawaharlal University of Pune. And I had a First Class Degree, B.Tech.(Civil).

Thus after a long gap of TEN long years I became an Engineer, realizing my childhood dream.

Bottom Line: There is no specific period of time for realizing our dreams. All that is required is, you must have a realistic dream, which can make your life more beautiful and you must follow the tips I have shared in one of my ‘Dream Post’ – ‘How to Realize your Dreams? ‘ .


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Powerful Inspirational true story…Never give up!

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When you Don’t give up..You cannot fail!! Watch this video and convince yourself….

Powerful Inspirational true story…Never give up!

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Great Inspiring People with Disability who “Never Gave Up”!

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Great Inspiring People with Disability who “Never Gave Up”

mdirWPpic.10Inspiring disable people without legs, without hands but those who never accept failure in their life and achieved success, An inspirational video of people who teach us a lesson to “Never Give Up” and “Don’t Quit “.

Many times we accept failure — at the time when we are near the door of success… Think about those people who are disable but then also they don’t give up.. Just click on thi picture and Watch this wonderful video of persons with disability who never accept failure..who never gave up!

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10 Unbelievable Rags to Riches Stories

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10 Unbelievable Rags to Riches Stories !

From Homeless to Billionaires, those amazing people wrote a page of history!

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The success story of Veera, from disability to a great career!

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 The success story of Veera, from disability to a great career!

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‘I Don’t Care’ – Attitude: Another Deadly Virus?

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mdir.post.2These three words together means a lot. It speaks of the attitude of an individual. It could be you or me, but this attitude can have a direct effect or impact on others, mostly negative. This deadly virus has very close connection with another deadly virus, ‘I know everything.’ attitude.

I care, I do care, I don’t care. People with this ‘I don’t care’ attitude are simply selfish. They are not all bothered about what ‘this attitude’ can make others life difficult or hell.

After you are grown up and matured, taking your own decision in choosing your partner – sometime against the wishes of your parents. As an individual, you may have many likes and dislikes, which you don’t want to compromise at any cost, whether it may create hardship to others or not – “I want my things to be perfect and I don’t care about what happens to my children, spouse or to my family.”

People with ‘I don’t care’ attitude tend to become very tough in their attitude and will have no place for any emotions in their life.

They become short / hot tempered and likely to take hasty decisions, often without much thinking causing damage / hardship / loss to others.

Such people will be ready to everything that is possible for ‘their own growth’ even at the cost others loss, whether it affects others realizing their dreams.

People with this attitude will be disinterested about others comforts and may bring in any hard decision as the boss / executive of a Corporate House/ Company or an Institution, which may bring in hardship to its employees.

They lack any human consideration.

They will not have any self-respect or any respect for others.

Such people will be isolated in the society by others in the long run.

We all know, a deadly virus can spread all over your body and can cause your untimely death and ‘spreading of this deadly virus will largely depend on how rigid you are in your ‘I don’t care’ attitude.

mdir images5Need for a Change: We need to change our mind set / attitude as we grow up in our life. Be good to everyone. Never be selfish. Share your views with your family and others and take their views also into consideration. Help others in their needs whenever / whatever you can.

Have strong concern about your family, your children, spouse, parents and siblings. Work hard and try to live within your means to make your life more comfortable. Remember, health, wealth and power are very much flexible and anything can happen to either of the three at any time. So, never have false pride on them.  Totally avoid this, ‘I don’t care ‘ attitude and make your life more beautiful!

Points mentioned above are meant for those who love their family and want to make their life more beautiful. However, everything will depend on the individual attitude and their attitude towards their family life and the living culture prevailing in a country. And the situation what we see today – many divorcees, ignored / abandoned children, ignored parents, all these can be partially attributed to for not valuing the dignity of family life.


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‘I know everything’ – Attitude

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mdir images3‘I know everything’ – Attitude is a deadly virus, spreading all over the world. And is the TREND of the day. Everyone, from child, to teenager, to matured, to the aged – most of them have this ‘I know everything’ attitude. Unless we do something to eliminate this virus, definitely it’s going to affect our future very badly.

Parent’s Scare: Now a days, parents are literally scared to give advice to their children or share their thoughts with them, may be about the need to maintain a good health, or may be about the need for good education, or may be about choosing a profession, or may be some guidance while choosing your life partner, or may be about parenting of your own children.

The moment parents begin to say something to their children, immediately the children will react by saying, ‘I know Dad / Mom. I know’, meaning, ‘you don’t have to tell me all these, I know everything. And I can now look after myself.’ And thus, now a days the parents scared to share their thoughts with their children. But those children don’t ever realize what they have lost in their life. This kind of attitude can only spoil our family relationship.

Effect on your Family, Professional and Social Life: ‘I know everything’ attitude can affect not only our family life but also our professional and social life. People shall try and refrain themselves from interacting with such ‘I know everything’ attitude people.

Sharing my Thoughts:
To avoid such a situation develop in our lives, here I would like to share some of my thoughts with the readers, whether ‘you know everything or not’: ‘Knowledge is Power’, Knowledge is Wealth’ and ‘Knowledge gets you Respect’.

When someone tries to share some thoughts with you or wants to give you some valuable advice, it must be because they feel that you need to know about that. Such advice / sharing is coming from your parents or some elderly person or from someone who knows you better.  It is filled with their life long experience and wide exposure. And it must be considered as valuable and should give a patient hearing.  Remember, after listening to them, you may decide whether to absorb them into your life or not.

But never, ever, show your ‘I know everything’ attitude to others, especially towards your parents, whether they are literate or not. Remember,

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Yet Another Dream Come True!

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photo (10) - CopyTrue, for me, this is yet another ‘Dream realized’ in my life.

It is quite satisfying to look back at my achievements in my life. During these years, there were moments of joy and sorrow, good and bad times, moments of worry and tension. In spite of all these, I found my way to live quite an enjoyable and eventful family life till now.

It is this life experience and the confidence to face any challenges in life that prompted me to create this website, my own creation, to share and interact with all my friends and their families across the world.

Today, we find people who wish to have everything in their life but they are not willing to work hard to make their Dreams into a Reality. Most of them become totally confused even when they face a little failure in their life.

inspiringimages8A Mission Impossible:  At my age, 70 plus, creating a website like www.makedreamsintoreality.com  was quite an impossible task for me. Though I had conceptualized the idea, to put it in this shape was almost impossible task for me, especially with all my ailments.

The fear of Failure was never near me. I was well determined and was prepared to work very hard to make this Dream into a reality. Within a matter of one week, just seven days, I could create a website of this nature, all by myself, including providing contents, layout and design, working on my laptop/ desktop for almost 6 to 8 hours daily, publishing/ updating – everything to make my dream into a reality.

It was all because I had a strong desire/ dream, planned everything very meticulously, I was prepared to work hard and I worked very hard.  And as I have mentioned in my ‘Secrets of My Success’ my wife was always there as an inspiring force behind me.


inspiringimages3Nothing is Impossible:
At times we may find things are not that easy as we think, may be little difficult, more difficult, but they are not impossible. With our strong will power, determination and hard work we can make everything possible. Look at me, in spite all my ailments, at 70 years of age if I could realize my dream, why can’t you? A Simple question you should ask yourself is, ‘If others can do it, why can’t I?’ Certainly the answer is,‘Ýes, you can.’

So what are you waiting for? Just find some time to read through this website, try to gain some mental courage and strength and try to pursue your dreams. Make a beginning now. And if you come across any bottle necks, take advice/ assistance from your family/ friends. You can also share your problems with us, through our page ‘Contact Us’.


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